5 ways to avoid Easter Overwhelm!
Apr 18, 2019
If you’re anything like me, you’ll be feeling a little exhausted in the lead up to Easter. No doubt it’s been a bit of a juggle during the school holidays and now the Easter shuffle is nearly here and you’re feeling….well completely overwhelmed!
Easter, like Christmas, can be a difficult time for separated families as it’s one of those ‘special holidays’ where it’s important for the kids to spend time with both parents. However, it can be an anxious time for parents as there is a less structure and possibly more face to face changeovers to navigate, not to mention a whole lot of chocolate!
If you’re finding Easter a little overwhelming, or perhaps this is the first Easter after separation, here are 5 tips to help make sure it goes smoothly so you can enjoy some quality time with your beautiful kids.
- Have a plan! Conflict loves confusion, so get yourselves organised. Don’t fly by the seat of your pants for changeovers. Arrangements like, ‘I’ll drop them over later this afternoon’, or ‘I’ll let you know when we’ve finished our Easter Egg hunt”, are sure fire ways to spark conflict. It can often leave one parent feeling powerless, leading to stress, anxiety and frustration which are the precursors to conflict. You do not want conflict in your life this Easter. Agree a time, or a time frame. So aim for 10am or between 10am-11am for example, then it is set in stone and you can work around it.
- Don’t go overboard with gifts! It’s not a competition! Don’t make it all about stuff regardless of what the other parent is doing. Easter eggs yes, but kids don’t need anything else. When did Easter become another gift exchange holiday? Don’t surrender to another Hallmark Holiday. If you want to give your kids something extra, give them an experience. Go for a bike ride together, a walk on the beach or a picnic in the park. Kids want your presence not your presents.
- Encourage positive and smooth transitions. Speak positively and respectfully about the other parent and encourage the kids to enjoy Easter in both houses. Don’t make your kids feel uncomfortable and unwilling to share their experiences with you by judging or criticising the other parents choices. Expect a bit of chocolate overload and hyped-up kids. But give the other parent a break, it’s not a time to bring up eating and nutrition choices. Just breathe and know that this too shall pass.
- Don’t try and do too much. Don’t feel like you need to have every minute of the day accounted for while the kids are with you. Scale your plans back and leave some down time to just chill and be together. Screens away and just be. Go for a walk, play a board game (our new favourite is Catan) or watch a family movie. (Try the original Ghostbusters - an oldie but a goodie!)
- Enjoy some down time. Rather than feel down or blue while the kids are not with you this Easter, flip that around to, ‘Yippee, some me time!’. Get yourself a good book, find yourself a trashy Netflix series to binge on, get a massage, catchup up with friends for lunch or just sleep in. Ahhh sleep. Be kind to you, it’s not easy but remember to fit your own oxygen mask first.
Whatever your plans, don’t forget to enjoy this special time with your kids and extended family. Don’t get caught up in the hustle and bustle, just step back, scale down and breathe. Your kids will thank you for it.
Be kind to yourself my friend. Always.