If you’re anything like me, you’ll be feeling a little exhausted in the lead up to Easter. No doubt it’s been a bit of a juggle during the school holidays and now the Easter shuffle is nearly here and you’re feeling….well completely overwhelmed!
Easter, like Christmas, can be a difficult time for separated families as it’s one of those ‘special holidays’ where it’s important for the kids to spend time with both parents. However, it can be an anxious time for parents as there is a less structure and possibly more face to face changeovers to navigate, not to mention a whole lot of chocolate!
If you’re finding Easter a little overwhelming, or perhaps this is the first Easter after separation, here are 5 tips to help make sure it goes smoothly so you can enjoy some quality time with your beautiful kids.
Most people have heard the airline spiels of ‘fit your own oxygen mask first before helping others’. But have you ever really considered the consequences of what might happen if you don’t? Put simply, if you can’t breathe, then you won’t be able to help others around you breathe. Such a simple concept that we should apply in all areas of life. Look after yourself, so you have the capacity to look after others.
But in real life situations, how easy is it to care for yourself before caring for others? If you’re a mother like me, you’ve probably been putting your kids needs above your own from the day you gave birth to them. It's an inherent fact, right? Some may even say its biologically imprinted on our DNA. Maybe that’s why we find it hard to flip that concept around and say, ‘hold the front door’, what about me?!
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If you count the 1990’s as your formative years you may recognise this Smashing Pumpkins Lyric. I remember lapping all that poetic rage up about how the world is ‘sent to drain’.
However, fast forward to 2018 and the world is possibly sucking the life out of us like never before. Life moves at a frightening pace with digital overload, high expectations and an overwhelming sense that we need to try and be everything to everyone. None so more than at Christmas time.
Perhaps, like me, you have spent the last few weeks saying to yourself:
After saying all of the above to myself (multiple times), I’ve come up with 7 idea’s on...
Are you the passenger or the driver in your family separation?
When a marriage or relationship ends, it might feel like your world has broken into a thousand different pieces. The aftermath seems incredibly overwhelming. What do I do? Where do I go? What are my rights? I have no idea where to start! I can’t face this right now.
Here at The Separation Place we think that there are two different options for you when you need to sort out your arrangements for your kids.
Be the passenger
You can get into the passenger seat and sit next to someone who can guide you through the system, move you through the process and get you out the other side. The driver is often a lawyer. An expert driver mind you. They know exactly the direction you need to head in and they know the roads well. The only set backs are that:
Family conflict is absolutely debilitating to those experiencing it. Loss of sleep, anxiety and worry, stress and pressure of what will the future look like for your family unit. People experience most of these negative aspects because they leave their conflicts to fester, rather than address them sooner rather than later.
The good news is that so many families in Australia can work together to find a co-parenting arrangement. Now, I didn’t say you have to like each other! But you do have to work together to make sure those children of yours are happy, healthy and live the best life they can lead. And you are going to help them do that by eliminating the stress of family conflict from their lives.
Imagine if there was a tool that helped you decrease the conflict, come up with a plan that works for all family members live your life without the dark cloud that’s been hanging over you. Well there is! And its called mediation.
Here are the top 3 reasons why mediation...